If hear one more, get the snip I will not be held responsible for what comes out of my mouth after, I thought a PM parent 2 got last night was the final straw, but no, today I nearly snapped!
I am not religious but am a great believer that things happen for a reason and those reasons are not to be questioned. When it comes to pregnancy, yes accidents happen, and yes, as someone kindly told me on discovering this announcement, accidents can be dealt with, that side of things is something I do not believe in, its not something, I personally, would ever do, I have friends who have, and I respect their choices, but for me, don’t ever ever dare even suggest it.
When it comes to men getting the snip, this too is something I do not believe should happen, not until you know 110% you baby days are over and your youngest is of say, school age.
My reasons for this vary but are always the same, this first one, some may find hard, but I know of others who agree with me.
Say I am 9/10 weeks now, Parent 2 bows to others demands and books the snip, has it done within a couple months, and something decides this pregnancy is not meant to be, yes we will still have 3 beautiful children, but there will always be that what if’s etc, esp as we have always said 4 is a good number (for us)
This reason I can go into a lot more, but Ill keep it simple, because there’s a few who I know are demanding we stop now, and I don’t want to cause any more arguments or debates. Our pregnancy is not a arguement or debate, its our life and our life style you are talking about and I don’t like it one bit, so shut it!!
Some people may not like the fact Parent 2 doesn’t work full time, potentially see us as scroungers? That I will make very clear we are not!!! I am slowly stepping into the path of self employment, and Parent 2 is working out something for himself with a friend. We declare any earnings, we keep things above board, we do not scrounge in anyway.
People seem to think those on benefits live a life of luxury, that we most certainly do not! We live within our means, not that this is any one’s business, and I will not go into that at all any more, but DO NOT JUDGE US.
Today in town, I was at a market stall, I was about to make a purchase, when the women asked me if I was breastfeeding, thinking random, I said no, before I could say why I was unable , she started to lecture me, shocked I told her I was hoping to with the one that’s due, Oh my word, I might as well as well have told her I had 6 heads and was breeding a purple spotted 15 legged octopus!!!!!!! Her jaw hit the floor and she looked at me as though I was stupid, asked me what I was thinking, had I never heard of contraception!!!!! She spoke down to me, in such a way, I had to hold my tongue, told her she had lost a very good sale, and I stormed off in search of Parent 2 rather pissed off.
How dare she judge me when she doesn’t know me! Doesn’t know my situation,
In fact how dare any of you judge us for having another, yes they may be close in age, but at least now, as soon as they all hit school age/nursery age, I can start focusing on my career collage, what ever it is I want to do, without having to stop and worry about babies, and things, I can do it all in one, without constant stops and breaks,
Yes this new stowaway was unplanned, but I am happy its there, happy its decided it wants to be, and with this, I can plan my life around it and us and our home and our life.
No Parent 2 will NOT be getting the snip, when this little one makes its appearance, I will be getting something stronger, (make that a rum too!) then the depo, but again, this is no ones business,
I am so happy to be expecting, to have 31 weeks ish notice, Parent 2 is over the moon, Little Miss, excited, the other 2 too young to understand,
Yes I will have 3 under 2, and do you know what, I don’t care, yes It won’t be easy, but I don’t do easy, I love my family and I am telling you now, if one day we announce a 5th, don’t be surprised, (least you have some warning this time!) just be happy for us and our Bratlings.